I had an opportunity to think about ‘hate’ the other day. To be specific it was about the hate and negativity some people carry around within them, for other people. Someone close to me was battling with the fact a person they once were somewhat close to, now seems to hate them. I thought to myself, ‘Is it really worth it to carry that weight around?’
I understand when it’s an intimate relationship involved the hurt can appear almost too much to handle. I know, I’ve been there. It may seem as if you could never look at that person again…but unless someone has done something really awful to me personally and it wasn’t just a relationship running its course…I could never hate, loathe or despise another human being. When the pain wears off from a relationship that didn’t work out, one can often understand WHY it failed and learn from it. That’s where the love (or like) you had for that person should re-surface. Are they really that bad? What does carrying that negativity around do to your Soul?
I may have been a late bloomer and maybe my past isn’t that colorful, but the men I have been in relationships with, I still talk to. It may not be daily, weekly or even monthly communication in some respects, but I know they’re close by in Spirit and would help me if I only asked. I look back with clarity that these relationships DID NOT work out, because they weren’t meant to…I wasn’t supposed to go that route. I would never be where I am, with My Guy now, if I’d stayed in a place I didn’t belong.
How can you hate when you look at this engineering marvel? The Falkirk Wheel. Google it. Photo by Chere Michelle.
In the case of the person I mentioned at the beginning of this post, I hope they realize it’s not their fault. They are not the one carrying the hatred and they must realize, you can’t force someone to change their ways. Hopefully, in time, the one who ‘hates’ will let their wounded Soul heal and open up.
We have too many burdens we put on ourselves every day already- do we need the extra weight of hate for ‘someone’ hanging around our shoulders?
Now kind of along the same lines as hate, but really not so strong, are pet peeves. We all got ‘em. I’m sure you know your partners, your best friends and your co-workers MANY pet peeves. I thought I’d share a few of mine:
- Motorists who leave their indicator lights on. Forever. It makes me wonder a) why they don’t hear the annoying clicking noise and b) why don’t they EVER glance at their dashboard? Even to check the speedometer or maybe the time? Don’t they see the light blinking on and off, on and off, on and off…
- Ball ‘ O Dish Cloth. Let me explain. I once had a roommate but I won’t name any names. As adorable as she was, she had a nasty little habit of wiping up the counters and table in the kitchen with a damp rag and then squeezing the ever-loving crap out of it and leaving the tight ball lying in the sink. It wasn’t rinsed out, OK? It was just wrapped up all nice, and tight, and damp….a perfect place for mold to grow and smells to start. *shudder*
- People stepping on bubble wrap makes me want to run out into traffic.
- Aimless Whistlers. They don’t have a tune in mind, they are just whistling to whistle and they usually can’t whistle that well. I understand it’s a form of expression and I just have to walk away…it’s no crime to whistle.
We all got ‘em and don’t you love ‘em? Pet peeves. We wouldn’t be who we are without them. What are yours?
Now give yourself a shake and let go of any negativity weighing you down…
Tags: fear and loathing, hate, pet peeves, relationships, vancouver
30-Something Lacto-Ovo Vegetarian. Kind of BoHo. Tofu Eating. Animal Rights Supporter. Previous Fat Kid. Sarcastic. Red Wine Drinker. In Love w/ My Guy.
